Don't fall for the flirty boys!

We all have a few in school. There's the boy who might be attractive but flirts with EVERYBODY. Yes, he might make you feel special but it is all fake. Truly, most of the time he doesn't even want a relationship with you. He just wants to feel like all of the girls like him. Plus, this guy can seem funny and flirty, but has no seriousness. Everything is just a game to him. You can't trust him and you don't want to give your heart to a guy like that.

What should you do? Well, if you have a flirtatious spirit, practice flirting back. Or just ignore him and he'll get the idea. Either way, don't fall for falseness of flirtatiousness.

It's not always what you think...

Mistake #2:

You have a crush on this boy right? But you're afraid to talk to him right? If you answered yes, you already are deep into Mistake 2.

      Face it, if you never talk to the boy, you're never going to get to know each other and you are NEVER going to go out! I spent an entire school year crushing on this boy and telling myself, Go talk to him. I would make up random stories that I could tell him in case I would talk to him. Finally I realized that my best guy friend was the one I truly liked. Now I'm going out with him.

      Girls spend so much time wanting to get attention from a guy they don't talk to. Even if you did go out, you'd be too nervous to talk and it wouldn't work out. Now I've learned that you shouldn't even bother. Truth is, life really is like those Disney movies, where the girl falls in love with her guy friend at the end. So don't say, "I don't want to go out with him because he's my friend." Do you two share things in common? Does he make you laugh? Do you look forward to seeing him in school? Then he is your perfect match. Don't deny it and DON'T care about what other people may think, go for it!

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Mistake #1

Yes, love does have its flaws. There are many mistakes made in love, but I'll take it step by step. Here we go:

Mistake #1: You over-think everything you do or say.

You all do this. After talking to your boyfriend or crush your mind floods with questions. Was I smiling? Did my hair look bad? Did I say something stupid? He didn't laugh. Does he think I'm ugly? Well, basically, you just need to tell yourself to shut. up. That's right. You are who you are. Yes, people make mistakes. Plus, a guy may like if you are a little klutzy. Guys hate perfect girls, its....kind of creepy. So if you stumble on your words or  say something slightly stupid, its NOT the end of the world. Besides, he should like you for who you are, no the person you are trying to be. Accept your mistakes, and make them you.

Also to go along with this rule. Don't over-think things that he does. If he didn't talk to you at school for a day or two, don't immediately assume that he's mad at you. Flash a smile when you pass him in the hallways. He probably just hasn't gotten a chance to talk with you. You can always start the conversation as well. Guys do like confident girls. what they don't like is girls who are extremely dramatic.

Basically, don't dwell on your embarrassing moments. They're part of the past. kepp on going and don't look back. As Oscar Wilde said, Be yourself, because everybody else is taken. 


Thanks again readers!

-Love Adviser <3

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BACK!

Wow, how sad. I have not blogged in 4 months! COMPLETELY SAD! Anyway....there are plenty of things to catch up on. Now with the new school year rushing by, there are soo many topics to bring up and help! I also need to tell you about my first date. I've had many since then, so I'll just summarize. Oh, and by the way it is NOT necessary to kiss on the first date, JUST so you all know! Thanks to my two new followers! I thought no one would follow this! Spread the word too because I'm back and ready to blog! Well, not quite yet considering I actually should be writing an essay now....But this weekend Fall Break starts! I will blog like crazy! Stay posted!!!!! THANKS!!!

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First Date!

OMG! The title says it all! My first date is in a few days! Crazy huh? Well, first official date. I'm going to see a movie with my crush. (could I consider him a boyfriend yet?) Anyway, I'm excited and already know what I am going to wear, except I am nervous. REALLY NERVOUS! Basically, I'll blog how it went and how you first daters can handle it! :) Love ya readers!

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Summer!

So Summer has finally arrived. The perfect time for dating and telling your crush how you really feel! Summer seems to give you a special strength where you can do anything. So if you're doubting yourself, say, "It's now or never." Here are a few great summer date spots:

1. Park- picnic in the sunset!
2. Movies-gives you great conversation topic afterwards!
3. Outdoor Mall- the lights at night give a romantic feel as you stroll down the storefronts
4.Get a Smoothie- fruity fun way to kick off Summer with him!
5. Swim- whether its a pool party or water park, you are sure to have fun!

Summer is a time when spend time with friends and family, and just have a good time. If you've lost a crush or broken up, don't get down on yourself. Start fresh this Summer and soak in some optimism.

Don't forget: If you have any questions, e-mail me at: askyourlovequestions@gmail.com!

Sorry its been so long!

Finals studying...yeah not so fun. Anyway!

I don't really like the guy that I used to have a crush on anymore. Now I'm kind of liking my guy friend. Let's say the guy I used to have a crush on is Guy A. My friend is Guy B. Okay, so I talked with Guy A a little last week and he is kind of nice. He's just so cocky and a little full of himself. Yes, he is attractive (teehee) but I can't just like the guy because he's hot. I came to realize that maybe Guy B (Who isn't as attractive) is genuinely kinder and caring. Also, I know him better and I know he likes me. Geez this is sooo crazy. Before the school year ended though I wish that I knew if Guy A liked me or not. Maybe I'll just chat him on Facebook over the summer or something because we are going to seperate schools....But you know what, I don't actually need to date anybody! Like I said before, do I justr feel like I need to love somebody? Maybe it is just kind of...natural. Well, I'm pretty sure that I am going to go out with Guy B. He's nice, funny and he has nice eyes. :) teehee. What do you guys think?

P.S. Found this for all of you with "Mixed signal" guys and it's REALLY helpful. Check it out!
http://community.sparknotes.com/2011/05/19/ask-jono-guy-body-language

Craziness!

This is hard. I know, that's how a lot of you feel everyday. Trust me, I know. You come home from school with things about your crush running through your mind: Does he like me? He said I looked pretty today! OMG I was sooo embarassed when I...

Well, get this. I'm sure some of you can relate. Some of you have "guy friends" right? Yeah, well I have a few. One in particular is really close and has been for a while. I'm kind of starting to like him. I know, I know, ohmygoodness! But I know that it's okay! But now I'm in another situation.

Do I really like him, or do I force myself to because I know I can never get my crush?

Aha! Dilemma! So, how do I answer that question? Well, even I am still trying to put the pieces together. Now, I know my guy friend likes me and I have felt a little attraction towards him. Plus, I barely talk to my crush and BARELY know him at all. Also, if I'm sooooo nervous around him, why would I go out with him? I want a guy that I know I can trust and be myself around. (Which is a good thing!!!)

So, you know in all of those movies where a girl asks her guy friend to help her win over her crush, and in the end, she falls in love with her guy friend? I think that's the road I'm on, and for right now...

                                                               I'm perfectly okay with it. <3

This guy that I like, he barely talks to me. But when he does he seems way nervous (as am I). I tell my friend about it and she claims that he totally likes me. So, here are some tips to see if a shy guy likes you:

1. He is nervous around you and might mess up what he says
2. He tries to act cooler and get your attention when he is near you
3. Eye contact and Smiles!

In this case, we're talkin' about shy guys. You know, the guys that aren't directly flirting with you or strutting around the hall like they're hot stuff. These little hints can make you feel like he likes you, which he probably does.

Now, one thing I don't want you to think. I've seen this in other blogs and advice columns : Just because he barely talks to you doesn't mean that he doesn't like you! Yes! So, whatever you might have heard, be assured. Some guys are shy, and they just drop subtle hints. So don't be discouraged if he's not around you 24/7. Besides, the most important rule is:

Rule 2: BE CONFIDENT (Never give up)

There came a time where I thought: He obviously doesn't like me, I'm just gonna give up. After I offcially told myself that I was "giving up," I just couldn't. Saying this didn't stop my feelings for him. And how could I possibly just give up on the charming, attractive, nice guy? Well, yeah I couldn't. So even if you feel like You're going nowhere, you're gettin' somewhere! Keep tryin out there readers!

Another School Day...

Wow...you know that feeling when you feel like nobody notices you? Yep, that's how I have been feeling the past few weeks. I guess you could say that I am a quiet person, but I have strong feelings.

Let's just say, the other girls in my class are all in little groups. Where do I fall into that? Nowhere. Now, I'm not some pyscho who likes being a loner, I am just not a clique kind of person. I have friends but not really close ones. Especially in last period, I feel so lonely, like no one wants to talk to me. The guy I like rarely talks to me! I mean, sometimes I try to talk to him, but he barely talks to me. My friends just say that he's nervous to talk to me too, but I'm not so sure. There's not much I can do now that school is ending. Okay, let's be more positive now...I just feel so out of place in my class, but luckily I have my sister!

That brings me to Aid #1:
Always have a place to fall.
If you have a sibling or really close friend, talk to them! No matter what is happening, tell your buddy. It will help you tremendously. Always have someone you can go to, that way you will never feel alone.

So, that's my school life pretty much right now. Anyone else have interesting story or just want to let something out? Comment!

Crush Advice...

Anonymous said... I'm too afraid to ask this guy out on a date. I know he likes me because of the way he acts around me. Also, a few people have told me that they heard he likes me. I just don't know what to do. Can you help?

 Love Advisor said... Of course I can help! Now, if you are too afraid to go up and ask him, "Will you go out with me?" Try doing that in a more discreet way. For instance, you could say, "We should go to a movie sometime," or "We should go see that new movie _______ together." Now, this may be difficult to do if you rarely talk to him, but if you know he likes you go for it! Talk to him more and get to know him. Don't be afraid ESPECIALLY if you know he feels the same way about you. Hope this helps!

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