Unsure??

That word. Unsure. Or uncertain. Those words appear ALL THE TIME in relationships. I'm not sure he wants to kiss me. I'm not sure he wants to go out with me. So many people have such a lack of confidence. Building confidence will not only help you with social life, but it will also help you for educational purposes and sports. Those who are really confident have the strongest relationships. If you aren't afraid to say how you feel or take the lead, then you're bound to know when you are in love and when you aren't.

Now, a few weeks ago I would be the exact person that I am telling you not to be. I always doubt myself. I always over thought what I just said. Was it stupid? Did my voice sound low? If you are dating someone, then they obviously like you! With time you will feel more comfortable around them anyway. If you are afraid of kissing someone or nervous, don't be. If you both like each other then don't be afraid to take the lead. Yes, I know it is way easier said then done. But all I can give you is advice. I can't be right next to you as you have your first kiss. Not only would that be creepy, it would...well...be creepy.

What I am saying is, the next time you find yourself rethinking the past few convos with your girlfriend/boyfriend, STOP. The past is gone. Focus in the future. Build some courage. When having your first kiss or asking someone out think of giving yourself "15 seconds of courage" (as I was wisely taught) and make move. Say to yourself, "I'm going to ask so and so out." Build up that random confidence and go for it. Besides, (some more wise words) What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. The worst answer you'll get is  No. If a person doesn't want to go out with you they won't kill you! All you'll get is a really saddening, "NO." At least you'll get an answer.

All in all, eventually you will find love or people that you enjoy being around. Don't chase it, because it will always be one step ahead. Love will come when you least expect it. (For some of us). Spontaneous = romantic! <3

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